by Thierry de Pauw on
I am depleted
I need rest -> Do less
I am a leader
I need to make change -> Do more
2020 is unbearable vs I have it good
Either we diversify or we hire the best.
But diversity helps hiring the best.
We don't know what the best is.
We are hiring based on an outdated view of what is the best.
@jamgregory: "We could hire a diverse team, but we'd have to lower the bar."
It's often shown as a binary between hiring diversity and hiring the best.
It misses the granularity - it's not an either/or situation. #LeanAgileX
@jamgregory: The binary is comfortable.
The binary keeps us stuck. #LeanAgileX
Prioritize our public health vs Prioritize our economics
This is the binary I don't want to live with.
We need more options.
Either/or thinkig is a habit of white spremacy becuase it often preserves the status quo and stops us from imagining new ways of being and doing. It creates dynamics of gridlock and stalemate. ...
- Kad Smith, CompassPoint
Racist vs Not racist
it is very easy to want to be in that Not Racist category, especially as a white person
we are unable to think about it
if you only have these two categories pushes you to one of both
we are not able to dismantle this, and so you keep status quo which white supremacy loves
Binaries worth breaking:
1. keep pushing vs stop moving
2. powerful vs powerless
3. everything vs nothing
Should I send my kids back to school?
What's more ethical, protesting or staying home?
Is it ok to travel for holiday?
We are making high-stakes decisions using low-confidence information.
=> Decision fatigue is real
When we are fatigue, we make worse decisions.
another binary: make bad decisions vs make good decisions
=> stop to make decisions
What we tell ourselves vs What we're saying ourselves: we don't know
Avoiding decisions at work ...
- lowers self-trust and team's trust in you -> you become indecisive
- reduces the number of options available
- creates confusion - left without a decision, individuals make conflicting ad hoc choices
- delays forward progress
- limits time available to implement a solution
We need the courage to make choices where it really counts - and stop ourselves from running in circles
Decisions create clarity
Clarity lowers stress and improves focus when we have so many unknowns
@jamgregory: We shouldn't decide everything right now, but even small decisions can create clarity.
Clarity, in turn, can then lower stress and improve focus. #LeanAgileX
@hgdrury: Can we only make bad decisions or no decisions at all? Absolutely not! Love this slide from @saraannmarie at #leanagilex https://t.co/iQKJZvBqXN
The more accustomed you are to solving problems to getting things done, to having a routine, the harder it will be on you because none of that is possible right now. ...
I feel personally attacked
=> binary: powerful vs powerless
we almost always put ourselves in the powerless
it is also status quo, you don't have to do a damned thing, we are powerless
A different question: where do I have power?
Stuck: I don't have a seat at the table I'll nave change my organization
vs Possible: what can I do to make change from whereever I'm sitting today => leadership
Example: GitHub to replace "master" with alternative term to avoid slavery references.
a lot of organisations start looking at racist terms in their products
Each tiny shift creates space for more change, @saraannmarie
=> makes space for other people to shift norms, to speak up
=> for more changemakers
the more voices we have, the more power we have
we all have a little bit of power and that power builds up
Stuckness breeds burnout
Possibility gets us unstuck
Being an anti-racist is not convenient ...
If it doesn't cost you anything, it's not enough
-- Rachel Rodgers, CEO of Hello Seven
Humans have a strong aversion to loss!
fear of speaking out is loosing future career possibilities
All workers worry about their future, but the ambitious people drawn to tech are almost pathologically reticent about foreclosing future opportunities they don't even know about yet
We are so afraid of losing something, we risk nothing
what is at stake when speaking up, what stops you?
Reject the binary between Everything vs Nothing
when we look at it, we go to the safest spot: risk nothing
The worst-case scenario is rarely the most likely case
=> We create cognitive distortion the the more you fixate, the more it feels likely
Spectrum of outcomes: Worst case <----> Best case
What are more likely outcomes? they are in the middle: not gres, so-so, pretty good outcomes
For each outcome:
- what could you do to prepare for or prevent that possibility?
- how would that outcome impact you or those around you?
- what are some ways you could mitigate that impact?
=> it allows you to see multiplicity, all the things you can't see when focussing on that binary
Catastrophizing breeds helplessness
Outcome-mapping builds courage
away from binaries
going to places where you have more choices
Binary thinking is armor
It protects the status quo
It shields us from growth
It separates us from each other. I prevents to build community or building hope.
From that space we can not build shared value or shared progress
White supremacy knows that when we're exhausted we remain obedient. And we're overworked we tend to stay quiet It rewards us for our silence, for not pushing back, for not questioning."
-- Desiree Adaway
Justice and rest are not in competition
They are inextricable.
It is ok to say no to overwork, to status quo
Be slow. Let this distract you. Let it change how you think and how you see the world. Because world is our work. And so, may this tragedy tear down our faulty assumptions. ...
Break that binary, what is possible from here, right now.
Sketchnotes by @twalsh92